Over the past decade I have tried to make sense of the women I have become . I’ve tried from all angles to understand why I am the way I am, what about you that draws me back to the whiteboard .
Its taken me years of denial to finally accept the victim you made me at the age of 13 . I wish I could burn these past 16 years its been since you had me wrapped and captivated.
You told me I was special, you told me you never loved anyone like this before me. The version of me that you loved I have searched for years. Any man after you I sought a version our love that you burned within me. I was your puppet, you played with all my strings, leaving the impression that what we had was normal…. That we could be normal.
You told me I was made for you, I believed that I was made for you . The words that you bled into me were promising to a girl of my adolescent ears. I feared not being enough, I feared disappointment, I feared you. Lastly I feared what I had become .
I want so bad to understand what I felt was missing that I turned to you as my escape . You were to be an infatuation, a crush ,a slight obsession that grew beyond the means of seeking the reality of it. I wish you would’ve acknowledge this, I wish the day I initiated any means of this to you that you should’ve shut it down .
Now that I am an adult I see my life through different lens that have sewn me together . A mixture of resentment, grudge , pain, and unwillingness to forgive and let go. I feel I lost me before I could become me .
I was youth, then I became part of you. I gave up my childhood to live a life you establish for me. The boundaries you wrapped me in, the control you enforced without seeking my approval .
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What I thought was love was none less shy of your need to control me. I had became your obsession . With what youth I still had you stripped me, I was to be yours and yours only .
Do you remember when you would always tell me ” I want you to have eyes for me and only for me “? I recall the letter you slipped in my locker when you found out I would be attending my 8th grade social with a boy of my age . You told me you felt betrayed and questioned my devotion towards you. What was to be one of the highlights of my 8th grade year, you took it from me. I had voiced to you my excitement of going dress shopping and getting all done up, all you heard was ” I am spending time with someone else”. I should of been more conscious how you spoke to me, I thought this was how you showed your love for me.
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The mind games you played with me, the countless unanswered calls you’d dismissed, the way you would come and go out of my life had me an emotional wreck . I was 14 then , unable to comprehend your actions. I was there to please you with my mouth, give you my undivided attention to make yourself feel good. The feeling of being used was a role I often found myself playing with you.
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You trolled me. You groomed the fuck out of me . Our time spent together was only a convince for you . Never did I feel safe, the anxiety that would rise within me feels too familiar now days.
The years of counseling I have endured remain a waste, I’ve been needing to end you, end us, end whatever it is that makes me feel entitled to you. Time has not healed the wounds that still burn full of hate. The 9 years you served was suppose to be my saving grace, a way to escape . Instead I served a different sentence that still lingers to me, the only one who isn’t free is me . Somehow you have moved on and forgotten the damage you’ve done . The son you’ve abandoned and left me to raise – I was a child raising a child with the only love I knew, the love you embraced with me .
You made it hard for another to love me . I have believed for years that I was viewed as damaged and only temporarily. I’ve felt branded for life with no expiration.
If only the end could be easier then the start, maybe then the version of you I’ve had serenading in my head would finally stop the hurt. I want to be done with this pain, I wanna be through this like the final stage of grief .
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I’ve had to be strong when I wanted the world to lift me of any responsibility . My life, one long trail of wreckage that depletes itself, permanently marked by you.
How is it that you get the happy ending while I am still cleaning up the mess you made. The god you praise and give your all to is the same god I ask for guidance, strength and understanding.
I’ve forgotten what it feels like to be sane and have no worries . Your absence in our sons life has created a different kind of hate . Your ability to look the other way these past two years as if he doesn’t exist. The only existence of our son is the child support pulled from your weekly checks and the dust that collects on the pictures you have residing on your mantle .
I don’t think you’ll ever understand the resentment I have for you. Those letters you wrote while incarcerated had me fooled, I believed that the time you lost with our son would be a priority once you were released.
Instead of seeking him, you sought me . You used our child to get close to me. Your motives were clear- You were thinking with your dick just as you did when I was 13. You put more effort in trying to win me over then seeking your son who craved his fathers love.
I’ve been pulling your weight for over a decade, I haven’t had the time to heal, to process this life that I’ve been struggling to live. I’ve had to shove us in the closet and pretend as if we didn’t exist. Becoming a mother changed my reason to live, he was now my purpose. All the years you wrote and called, our child was always last to be entertained. I never understood why you didn’t love him the way you loved me . Why you didn’t choose him, but chose me.
I have all these delusions in my head , I have tried to piece the pieces back together to understand the man you are . I am loss for words, I can no longer pretend that this will fix itself. I am drowning, I feel I’ve been fighting a lost war . I keep thinking you’ll come to your senses and be the man you promised me, be the father that Elijah needs you to be .
I don’t want to be stuck here anymore, I want the freedom you found. I want to be at peace, but every reflection shows the broken me .
Somehow its feels as if I am the bad guy. The image you portray of me to your peers, you’d think you were the victim. From the words of your now wife ” I was already a street girl, I chased after you “. The church you attend fully supportive of you and in agreement with that statement is sickening, because you honestly believe this.
I am not the monster here, You are Dustin.
I’ve accepted that I can’t make you want to be apart of our son’s life. If anything I see that as a win, he doesn’t deserve how you have treated him. He may be autistic but he understands loyalty, trust and most importantly love.
I will soon find the comfort I am seeking. I wasn’t made for you,
– don’t you ever forget that .
Ciera